Nontraditional Love - 1st Poly and LGBTQ themed adult coloring book

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Poly Engagement Ring(s) Guide - Part 1 in the Wedding / Commitment Ceremony Series

I've been seeing many triads getting engaged in the various poly groups I belong to.  This has gotten me thinking about the different choices that polyamorists have when it comes to engagement rings, especially triads.  Most engagement rings are single rings or a matching set for a couple.  This wouldn't work well for a triad since, well there are three people.  I did a quick google search to see what options were out there, and honestly there were not really a three piece set that caught my eye.  This made me pretty sad, because I know that I'm not the only person who has searched for such a set of wedding rings.

I don't know why it bothered me so much, but I couldn't help but thinking about those people popping the question to their other partner(s), and the struggle that they had to have went through to find a ring or set of rings that would work for them. 

I decided to go to www.etsy.com and reach out to some shops that had rings that caught my eye to see if they would create custom triad sets.  I am happy to say that there was such a great response.   I decided to come back to my blog and start a whole series on polyamory wedding / commitment ceremony guides.

I hope you enjoy.

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At Skyeanddrylie shop I found this adorable carved spoon for only $10.00 .  This would be such a cute way to pop the question.  But it doesn't quite fit for a triad.  So, I messaged the shop and asked if they would be able to do a spoon that said, "Will you marry us?" They responded that they would be able to do that.  They did not say if there would be an additional charge for a custom order or not, so if this idea interests you, send them a message and ask.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/93240597/will-you-marry-me-teaspoon-with?ref=shop_home_active_2

Now onto rings.  These are rings that caught my eye and that I thought would work well for two people as well as triads.  I will note that I contacted each of these shop owners to ask specific questions about their products to see if they could make them more poly friendly and/or triad friendly.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/237116512/personalized-matching-promise-rings

These wedding bands are listed in the shop. OnlyUniqueGifts.  It is listed currently for $49 for the pair.  They did tell me that they could do a set of three, but they have not given me a price yet.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/246302801/preferential-2pcs-couples-rings-set

These wedding rings are listed in the shop FashionMyHome.  This is a set for a man and woman and is currently listed for $27.  They did tell me that they could do a three piece set if I would like.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/104908901/personalized-sterling-silver-promise

These wedding bands can be found in the shop PersonalizedGiftsUSA.  I asked the shop owner if they could put three names on the rings, and they said as long as the number of characters fit they could do that.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/179364552/wedding-band-wedding-ring-engagement

These wedding bands can be found in the shop JubileJewel.  These rings would be awesome for two people, but doesn't quite fit a triad either.  I messaged the shop owner, and asked if they could make two women's rings that said "I love him and her" and a male ring that said "I love her & her".  They said they would be happy to do that.  Since they are able to customize the rings to fit your needs, this would be a great set of rings for a trouple.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/245764869/couple-promise-ring-always-ring-with

This ring can be found in the shop Belvidesigns.  I thought this ring was really cute.  I asked the shop owner if they could do three initials inside and they said yes.

Now onto my favorite triad wedding ring set.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/233921639/personalized-engraved-couples-promise

 This set can be found at OnlyUniqueGifts.  I asked this shop owner if they could do two women's heart rings and one man's ring and they said yes.  Just go to their shop and request a custom order.

Well, I hope you enjoy this wedding ring / engagement ring guide for polyamory couples and triads.    It warms my heart that shops like these on etsy are willing to work with non-traditional relationships to make their commitment ceremony / wedding day as special as their love.

Triad Vacation Time!!!

I'm so excited.  We just finished packing for our vacation, and will be heading out soon.  Well, Lovie and I are finished packing.  Champ just woke up and still has to pack.

We are taking a mini vacation to a cabin in the mountains.  It's just for a few days, but I NEED THIS VACATION so badly.

I have no clue what all we are going to do, but I'd be fine just sitting in the cabin and reconnecting.

I'm brining my computer, because I'd like to work on my poly book series some.  I'm also going to bring my art supplies in hopes that the mountains give me some inspiration.

Until next time,

Fighting the Urge

I know it's been a while since I've posted.  I'm sorry about that. I'm still working full time, and concentrating on my art.  It hasn't really left much time for anything else.

All has been going ok in polyland, well that is until tonight.  Peanut and I were home sick today.  I was home sick the day before.  Doll was off work today.  I was a bad girlfriend and should have spent time with her.  Instead I worked on my art.  I was too focused, and I think I hurt her feelings.  I didn't mean to.  She was saying she didn't feel well either, and napped a lot today.  I thought that I should give her her space, but I guess I thought wrong.

I didn't realize she was upset but I guess she wasl, but how was I supposed to know.  She didn't tell me.  When I am focused on my art, I get lost in time.  It's one of the things that I love most about doing it.  The world just melts away, but today I let it melt too far because I didn't realize she was actually upset.

Champ came home from work.  We ate dinner, and all set down to watch some tv.  He started to fall asleep, and she got even more upset.  I was giving her space.  I try not to get in the middle of arguments if they have them, because they deserve their space to work things out just the two of them.

But as I'm typing this, they are in the bedroom arguing.  It is breaking my heart, and I want to go in there so badly and help them work through it, but it isn't my place.  When she's ready to talk to me about being upset that we all haven't been spending time together, I will be ready to listen.  But they need time to work through their things going on.

Sooooo........

I'll just be sitting here fighting the urge to go in there.


Until next time,

Where In the World Have I Been?

So you might be asking yourself where I have been.  You might not be, but hey, I'm going to tell you anyway what all we have been up to.

Lovie came back from school.  Champ, Peanut, & I were so glad that she did.  It just didn't feel right without her here.  I actually don't think that I have posted on here since she's been back, but we spent a lot of time catching back up.  And then the everyday life kind of took over, lol.  She busted her ass while at school and then came back and busted her ass to get in the required amount of time needed to get her Pet Stylist (AKA Dog Groomer) certification.  I'm so proud of her!

I have been focusing on drawing and painting.  I don't remember if I had posted on here before that I am a writer.  Well, I needed a break from writing at the time.  I have no clue why I did, but I picked up a sketch book and some graphite pencils and charcoal pencils and started drawing again.  I had stopped for like 8 years, and have no idea why I started back, but I have been creating art like crazy.  I'm not saying that I have completely stopped writing and won't ever writer another book, but I just needed a break for a bit.

Peanut has started school again, so our lives have been super hectic (like they always are when school is in session).  It's hard to believe that he is in 1st grade now.  Man how time flies.

Champ has just been being champ lol.  He's been playing video games and hanging out at the house lol.  

Until Next Time,

I'm Bored

I'm just going to go ahead and say it.  I'm bored.  Why am I bored?  Because it's just me and Peanut in the house together all weekend.  Well me, peanut, and the way too many animals we have lol.  

Champ went to go spend the weekend with Lovie so that leaves me at the house alone.  And let me tell you; it's a very weird feeling.  It's been a very long time since I slept alone and didn't wake up to one or both of them here.  I'm not sad or upset or anything, I'm happy that they get to spend some time together.  I'm sure both of them are having a great time and are happy to spend some (I'm sure) much needed time together, but it's just weird being in the house without either one of them.

I couldn't sleep last night, though it was nice just to lay on the couch and watch a ton of bad movies, and just not do ANYTHING.  I tried to go to sleep around midnight, but I kept waking up off and on and would stay up for a bit each time.   Unfortunately, Peanut had me up at 6am.  I don't know why he is such an early bird.

I have messed around on the computer a bit.  I've been researching some other poly blogs and websites to contact to see if they will put a link to my poly surveys to help spread the word.  The more responses that I get, the more reliable my data will be.

What I really really really need to be doing is cleaning up this house.  I don't know how it can get so messy so quickly.  It's a small house, but still....  We need to figure out some kind of schedule or something so we can all stay on top of it, but that is for another day.

Well, I guess I need to get to cleaning.

Until next time,

Calling all Poly People!

I have pitched a book series to my book editor about a poly series that focuses on advice from poly people.  Topics include everything from dating, to jealousy, to having kids.  I would like to have it include advice from fellow polyamorous people from around the globe.  Are you interested in submitting advice or telling your beautiful love story?  Please use the links below to submit.  You're submissions will remain anonymous.  You get to chose what name you'd like to be represented as, what questions you answer, everything.  Share as much or as little about your happy poly life as you would like.  And please share with others that might want their poly voice heard. The survey is split up into topics in order to allow people to fit in a survey as they have the time.  Thank you so much.

• To take the Poly Stats Survey click here.
• To take the Coming Out as Poly Survey click here.
• To take the Metamour(s) Survey click here (please note, this survey covers topics about metamours not just for metamours to answer)
• To take the Time Management Survey click here.
• To take the Poly with Children Survey click here.
• To take the Rules and Boundaries Survey click here.
• To take the Jealousy Survey click here.
• To take the Compersion and Happy Poly Moment's Survey click here.
• To take the Pros and Cons of Poly Configurations Survey click here.

Until next time,